August 16, 1990
                                   PSYBOUND.ASC

                             From The Psycholgy Forum
                              COMPUTER BULLETIN BOARD
                                   214 368-5474

                           SIGNS OF UNHEALTHY BOUNDARIES
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       1.   Telling all.

       2.   Talking at an intimate level at the first meeting.

       3.   Falling in love with a new acquaintance.

       4.   Falling in love with anyone who reaches out.

       5.   Being overwhelmed by a person - preoccupied.

       6.   Acting on the first sexual impulse.

       7.   Being sexual for your partner, not yourself.

       8.   Going against personal values or rights to please others.

       9.   Not noticing   when   someone   else   displays   inappropriate
            boundaries.

       10.  Not noticing when someone invades your boundaries.

       11.  Accepting food, gifts, touch, or sex that you don't want.

       12.  Touching a person without asking.

       13.  Taking as much as you can get for the sake of getting.

       14.  Giving as much as you can give for the sake of giving.

       15.  Allowing someone to take as much as they can from you.

       16.  Letting others direct your life.

       17.  Letting others describe your reality.

       18.  Letting others define you.

       19.  Believing others can anticipate your needs.

       20.  Expecting others to fill your needs automatically.

       21.  Falling apart so someone will take care of you.

       22.  Self-abuse.

       23.  Sexual and physical abuse.

       24.  Food and chemical abuse.

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