Background

In 1984 I was introduced to Neuro Linquistic Programming (NLP) by Tony
Robbins (His wife Becky, has been a Course student since "83)  and
studied with Dr.  Bernard Cleveland.  I began to see some noticible
differences but interesting correlations between it and A Course in
Miracles.  The course talks about how we have split our mind by
judgements and have become fragmented, not only person to person, but
also in our own mind.(Tp11)  One tenant of NLP ( as well as other
psychological studies) discusses treating our mind as if there are
distinct parts, each with a primary function.  For example we have a
part of our mind that seeks to "protect or build up" our ego by
developing friendships.  Another part may seek to "protect" us by
getting steady work.  Another may have the function of "protecting" our
health.  Each one of these "parts" has methods or behaviors of achieving
its function.  Some parts may have many behaviors available to achieve
its function and other parts may have only o ne way (which can cause
frustration when that way is not effective in varying situations).

The illustration I give is that of a small child who may have a part
whose function it is to protect its self esteem.  The way it does this
is to get his mother attention and love.  Say in the middle of a party
the child comes and tugs on Mom as she is talking.  She says go play.
He repeats the action gets another unacceptable response.  Again she
says go play.  The third action is his slowly pulling the cord to the
blinds until they come crashing down.  The behavior works.  Mom comes
running over and all attention is focused on the child.  The behavior
was not "wrong", it was just that the child was working from a limited
choice of behaviors and was acting from a belief that his ego was his
only reality.

The ability of the parts of the mind to achieve the function related to
their (perceived) need is dependant on their available behaviors.  One
benefit of this belief system within the secular community is that it
helps remove judgements of the person and rather accords each behavior
with a simple distinction.  All behaviors are considered valid, it is
just that a behavior can be considered more constructive when it is
appropriate for the context.  For example yelling and screaming at the
top of your lungs is considered appropriate at a football game and
considered inappropriate in an office building.  Murder is heroic when
at war and an abomination when at peace.  But the problem is that some
of these behaviors are in direct conflict to other "parts" of our mind
in the same context thus producing conflicts of anger, hatred and
frustration.  We conveniently project out onto others these judgements
making their actions wrong and them worthy of our anger, removing the
focus from ourselves .  But each time we judge another (bringing along
our anger or hatred and withdrawing our love), that part of our mind
that uses or has used that behavior before runs and hides behind walls
and walls of denial, further increasing our internal separation.  These
hidden parts then offer their behaviors from an unconscious standpoint
leaving us wondering "Why did I do that again?".   The bright choice is
that once we turn our actions over to the Holy Spirit (ourSelf or unity
with God),  spirit becomes our unconscious mind and the mind then
becomes unified in need, seeking only a correction for our belief in
separation.  But until we give up all judgements and our value in
separateness and the "things" we can get as a seperate entity, we will
continue to experience this state of separation in our minds.

In early 85 as I was involved in daily meditation on A Course in
Miracles and studying NLP, I thought well if I can forgive and love
others, surely I can forgive and love all the parts of myself I
experience as separate.  So I got very excited, went "inside" and said I
want to love all the different parts of myself and began to extend love
within my mind and got a very good feeling until: wham!! I ran into a
wall.  It felt like a part of me that was unwilling to accept love,
actually it was a part of me that I had judge so harshly in others that
it did not want me to know it even existed within me.  I declared at
that time, "My Mind can find a way to incorporate this part of me" and I
promptly forgot the whole thing.

A week later I was standing in my kitchen when I "heard" a voice yelling
at the top of its lungs.  Then I realized that voice was in my mind.  A
part of me was yelling fearfully "NO...NO...NO". Another part of me was
a simple observer and was thinking "This is really fascinating".  Then I
heard a voice and began to be aware of a peaceful loving presence in my
mind.  It began by saying, "I understand that you are not sure you want
to be loved, but will you be willing just to experience love?  Just to
experience it?"

At that point I felt some acceptance and I saw a wonderful warm white
light enter my mind and "surround" that part of my being/definition.
And I saw the light begin to enter or "soak" into this part of me.  In
just a little while, what was a dark spot within my being became a
glowing light and I heard the voice say to this part of me, "Would you
be willing to share this love that you are experiencing" and I felt an
immediate "YES! of understanding" and then I saw this light expand
steadily within me as each part of myself began to accept this light and
then "pass it on". 

In a timeless moment, I experienced my being "becoming" this unified
light/love part by seperated part.  It was like I was a one shining
light and my body was on fire with this bright light that was shining
through it.  As I became aware of my surroundings I "saw" little angels
of light dashing around in furious excitement and then dashed off like
they had other work to do.  And I realized they were me, loosed from the
bindings of my own judgements, free to do the function appointed.
Whatever that was.

I wish you could have seen me afterwards.  I was like a little boy.  I
called up all my friends and said, "You want won't believe this but
there is this simple way to experience love on a level you have never
felt before.  All you have to do is get in touch with God and ..etc,
etc." 

You can imagine what you would say if someone called you up all excited
and said "Look! I found a way for to experience love and forgive
yourself!!"  Well, I got a few, "That sounds really great" to "I can
tell *something* happened to you."

Over the next few days I emotionally floated and had no need to sleep
more than an hour or two a night.  The feeling of loving self acceptance
was wonderful.  The next two months produced alot of odd occurrences for
me.  I began to notice that I really was not separating myself at some
level from others and would get extreme headaches when people around me
would be thinking thoughts of anger, worry or fear.  It got so
disconcerting that I would have to tell people to PLEASE change their
minds when they would be worrying.  That took a while to get a handle on
and still can be difficult even though I have learned some techniques
for dealing with it.

A month or so later I began leading others through the experience I had.
Many people experienced exactly what I did and the feedback I have
gotten over the years has been that this process brings a tremendous
level of peace. I call it self integration and feel that it  allows an
individual work with spirit in a way that does not even require a
religious belief but the loving effects of forgiveness apply never the
less.  Those who are familiar with the Course in Miracles will recognize
this as the forgiveness exercise used to forgive others, it finds a
useful application "internally" as well. As the Course states
"Forgiveness sweeps all other dreams away, and though it is itself a
dream, it breeds no others."  


*"Self Integration" Process* ***********************

Begins Discussion with an Individual on 	

*Unconscious "functions and their corresponding behaviors to choose
from.  How choice at the unconscious level will always produce action
from available choices for the context of belief system available for an
individual at place and time in their life.  Limits of choice at this
level can produce not good or bad but the most appropriate available
behavior for that specific context.  

*Existing behaviors and our judgements - Ones liked / Ones Disliked and
their function in this ego world for of protection/survival

*Examine times of anger at others.  Itemize at least 3 times
				
*Uncover specific behaviors for which produces anger in the individual
each time Discuss protective function that behavior provides the person
they have been angry with.

*Key Moment* ************

Ask what has been their own response to the same behavior in themselves
when they used it.  Anger at themselves?  Depression?  Sadness? 

Ask what do they think that response or judgement does to that part of
them that is contributing that behavior, when it is doing the best it
can with the resources (behaviors) it has available for them in that
situation.

*Most intense* ************

Describe "with feeling" the breakdown that occurs when we block off love
from any part of our consciousness.  The walls that develop internally.
The parts of our being running our lives from behind walls of our on
making.  When these parts are just trying to do their job (that we
created for them) for us to the best of their ability and  we can't even
communicate with them any more.  What kind of hurt, guilt, and anger
that we feel.  The helplessness of trying to change what we can't get in
touch with any more.

(A great number of people have begun to experience intensely those
feelings of how they have felt about themselves at this point.


*Closed Eye Process* ******************

*Preparation* ***********

Without any hesitation I ask them to get into a (1-2 min) comfortable
position and close their eyes as they feel most comfortable.

Then I request that they get a good feeling about the size of the
awareness of themselves.  Is it the size of their head, their body?  I
ask that when they get a good feeling about the size of their awareness,
that they nod their head. (Gives their mind something to focus on)

Then I ask that they expand the awareness of themselves up to the size
of the room and ask when they get a good         feeling of the
awareness of themselves as large as the room that they nod their head.

Then I ask them to continue to expand their awareness of themselves as I
continue to talk.  I ask them to become aware of themselves as big as
the building, Continuing to expand bigger (I repeat that often,
"Continuing to expand even bigger").I lead them through a local city,
state, country, world, solar system, galaxy, and outward as far as they
can image... infinite.  Asking them to nod their head when they get a
good feeling about how huge and vast they truly are.

Integration Process		

(A)     Then I ask them to become aware of a part of their mind and
imagine (visualize) it as a separate and distinct part within this
vastness of themselves, a part of their consciousness that they have
blocked off love from.  And nod their head when they have found that
part.  If they have problems you can ask if they can find a part of
their self that contributes a behavior that makes them mad at
themselves.  Some people see shapes, colors, spaces or images.  Some
people get a feeling but it helps if they can become aware of it as a
distinct and separate
	
Then I ask them to acknowledge that part for the positive function it
has done for them in their life.  My experience is that they do not have
to know what that was but if you have explained that well in the
beginning they will be willing to feel gratitude for that part of them.

(B)     I ask them at that point to request if that part would be
willing to accept God's love or unconditional love.  I then ask "Will
it?" Occasionally and very rarely I will get resistance from that part
of them at that point.  So if I do, I will ask if that part would just
be willing to just experience love.  In every case this has always
worked.

I keep asking "Will it?" until I get a response I am looking for.  At
that point I ask them to image God's love as a beautiful light.  I say
"You may experience God's love as a wonderful warm white light and but
it will be exactly right for you".  I mention white since that is what I
experienced.  But I know that it doesn't have to be and it is less
disruptive on those who may have problems visualizing color.)

(C)   The words I use at this point seem to be important.  I say "Now
reach out and gently,...  very gently enfold that part in this
light---love.  And see it beginning to merge, first with the outside and
begin to soak inward as this part begins to soak up what it is made of.
It takes in more light... more love....more light and even more.  Keep
giving it light until it goes all the way through this part and it
becomes very clear. And to help those who haven't completed this part I
keep saying "And keep giving it even more light and more light until it
gets very clear and let me know by nodding your head.

In one on one I ask how that part is feeling.  Next I will ask them to
ask that part if it would be willing to share to love it is experiencing
with another part of themselves.  I had never had any answer but yes at
this point.

Then I ask them to find a second part that they have blocked off love
from and complete (A) to (B) with it.

Then I ask the first part to first extend love to the second part "very
gently .. and now you reach out and .." continue with (C). 

At the end of this section I ask that the two parts hug each other and
share love .. light. "And as they do, you see they get brighter and
brighter and now ask them will they be willing to share the love that
they are experiencing.

*More Intense*	

Now I ask them to "Find a third part.  A part that you have blocked off
love from.  A part you said you didn't love about yourself.  A part
behind the wall and nod your head when you find it." (This is generally
the part where most people have said that they had the biggest
breakthrough.  Where they have experienced the greatest amount of self
acceptance and love.) 

Repeat (A) and (B) and ask the first two parts to extend love and light
"very gently to this third part and now you reach out and..." continue
with (C). At the end of this section I ask all three parts to hug each
other and share love .. light. "And as they do, you see they get
brighter and brighter and even brighter until they get very very bright
in this vastness  of you.

*Highlight of the Self Integration Experience* *(1-3 min- Slowly and
Very Intense)* ******************************

"Now turn your focus out and shine this light out...out, out to the very
edges of this infinite self you are. And keep shining on all those parts
of yourself that you have blocked off love from.  Shine out, and as you
do feel those parts being touch by God's Light, first on the outside
then beginning to soak up this Love..more and more and as they do you
begin to see them streaming back into the center of you becoming clearer
and brighter.  And as each one comes back into the center of you
acknowledge that part for its positive function, and keep shining out
light.  Keep reaching out to all those parts of yourself and feel them
accepting this light and coming back into the center (or
acknowledgement)of yourself.  And you see more and more and more as you
get brighter and brighter and brighter and throughout the entirety of
you there is all light shining everywhere and keep giving yourself light
until you are clear all the way through."

At this point in the process most people describe a "healing" and a
"wholeness", "clearity", "totally at peace", "fantastic" and "filled
with light and energy".  Some describe feeling like a star but almost
all feel a unified feeling of being light. When done with me I felt the
most intense "rush" of love and energy.  I had more energy and joy than
I had ever experienced. 

At this point I ask: "Bring someone to mind that you have blocked off
love from.  Once you have that person in mind, get a good view of them
and nod your head when you can see them.  Now see dark blotches
completely blocking out the view of their face. These blocks prevent you
from seeing them as worthy of love.  Would you be willing to give love
to this person so you can see them as they really are?"

They will nod then say "Now reach out and gently,...  very gently and
shine that warm light you are on the blocks you hve placed in front of
that person.  And see it beginning to merge, first with the outside and
begin to soak inward.  See it takes in more light... more love....more
light and even more.  Keep shining your light until it goes all the way
through and the dark disapears. Now keep giving this person more light
and love and even more seeing the light soak through their face until
your light shines all the way.  Now experience that person as they
really are.  As you really are.  As love and light." Repeat for several
individuals the person may wish.  This is a great healing and a great
gift to share to the forgiver and forgiven.

This is a great place for doing change behavior and providing
alternative choices in behavior to the mind that feels that it has
limited choices.  It is at this point I generally install a self
controlling model that allows conscious interaction with previously
unconscious aspects.  But to have them leave the experience at this
point is a wonderful place to end. 

 Now you want to have the person come gently out of the experience
 therefore bring their attention back to their view of themselves as
 this unified being of light.  Then say: "Now become aware of your body
 sitting in the chair.  Begin to feel the back supporting, your hands in
 your lap as you bring your awareness back to this room allowing
 yourself to bring with you all the love that you know that you are.

I have work with over 150 individuals in the last eight years and the
response has been excellent.  It appears that the more "aligned" a
person is with some spiritual ideal the greater the impact.  I don't
know what that means.  But over the years I have noticed it to be true. 

Whether or not the belief system of "parts of being" is true, it seems
to provide a framework for rapid acceptance of certain ideas.
Forgiveness for example seems difficult to take in and accept completely
but giving love to a part can be easy and the results are, in my belief,
the same.

Feel free to use any part of this material or to call me with any
questions.  It is given as was given to me. 

"Would you be willing to share the love you are experiencing?"

Love

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ps:  If you have ever had a similar experience or find this process
useful, please drop me a line.