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-- Methods and Techniques for Corporal Punishment of Teen-age Boys and Girls --


Many of you are parents or guardians of teen aged boys and girls.  Often
children in this age range are rebellious and in need of discipline in their
lives.  As the saying goes, if your teen agers are getting off the track,
perhaps they need switching.  In this article we will discuss techniques for
administering corporal punishment.

There are a variety of instruments in and around the household suitable for
administering corporal punishment.  Such instruments might include, the hand, a
hairbrush, wooden spoon, leather belt or strap, paddle, or if you have any
wooded areas nearby, a switch.  There are pros and cons with each of these
implements and I will address some of them now:

     a.  The hand.  The advantage of using one's hand to spank is glaringly
obvious.  You always have ready access to it.  The main disadvantage of using
the hand is that the spanking could wind up causing you as much pain as you
inflict, or more.  The hand will leave marks and if you wear a heavy ring
bruises.  Rings should be removed before administering a hand spanking.

     b.  The hairbrush.  The old fashioned wooden hairbrush with the oval back
is ideal for administering spankings, particulary if the mother is doing the
spanking. The newer modern plastic type hairbrush will also suffice.  
The bristles should be turned away from the child's bottom when you spank them. 
The hairbrush can leave marks and bruises (especially the wooden type) and one
must be somewhat careful when using them.

     c.  The classic wooden kitchen spoon is almost always found within the
home.  Like the hairbrush it is also an ideal implement, but can leave marks and
bruises.

     d.  The leather belt worn by Dad, or Dad's razor strap also make excellent
implements for use in corporal punishment.  A thin (width) strap will not be as 
likely to bruise and may sting slightly more than a wider strap, however it will
also raise larger welts..  Care should be exercised to ensure the end of the
strap does not wrap around the hip of the child since the "snap" it makes will
raise large welts and bruises which will stay for several weeks.  I prefer this
implement since it can be easily stored in a place in the household which serves
as a constant reminder of what happens when the child earns "licks".  I keep a
leather strap which was custom-made for this purpose.  It is 23 inches long, 2
and one-half inches wide, and one-eigth inch thick.  One end was carved to form
a comfortable handle, while the "business end" is shaped into a slight "V" and
four slits, each about 4 inches long, provide a buffer to reduce large welting
somewhat while providing maximum benefit.

     e.  There are paddles found in many homes, the type with the ball on the
rubber band, or those cut from plywood. The paddle should be at least 6" wide so
the impact is spread across an area large enough to prevent serious bruising.  A
paddle provide excellent control and certainly stings enough to set most any
bottom afire, but since it does cover such a broad area, you must be careful not
to hit --too-- hard.  There have been cases where a great deal of force was used
and the child sustained cardio-vascular damage....  even kidney failure.   A
good paddling needs only be brief in duration, and is best reserved for minor
offenses where you want to make an impact, but find no need in making it a
severe spanking.

     f.  The switch.  Hickory or willow trees make excellent sources for
switches.  A bonus is that you can have the child obtain the switch that is to
be applied to  them. This is a tremendous psychological punishment for the child
since he/she knows that they must obtain a switch which will hurt the most.  The
natural tendancy is to cheat a bit, and that should be addressed at the time of
the punishment, either by making the child get another one, thus prolonging the
anticipation of the pending event, or by adding more strokes of the switch while
making it clear that the next time, the child should do their duty properly. 
The switch should be a green branch 24" to 36" long and should taper to about
the width of a pencil.  Switches generally don't bruise, but do leave welts. 
Care should be exercised to ensure the end of the switch is not wrapping around
and hitting the child on the side of the pelvis.  Remember too, that the switch
can draw blood if used to heavily.  A good "cut" of the switch will bring about
a momentary whitish mark which quickly turns bright red, then deep red and
raises to a thin welt.   If you want a permanent switch to keep in a specific
place for administering Corporal Punishment, you might stop by a store where
they do furniture weaving and pickup a length of Canewood.   We've all seen
Canewood chairs and know how durable they are even after many years.  Bamboo or
Canewood is extremely flexible and remains that way for a long time.  Length of
Canewood about 26 inches or so... up to 3 feet is probably the most effective
(read that painful) implement you can have on hand.  Kept in a "special" place
where your children can see it... such as the bathroom closet or their bedroom
dresser drawer.. it serves as a daily reminder of what will happen if they do
not exercise good judgement in their behaviour.

A variation of the switch is what the Brittish call "Birching".  A bundle of
shorter, smaller switches not more than thick twigs are tied together.  If done
properly this should look like a giant asparagus bunch, with the whippy
twig-ends left free enough to find their own individual targets.  Some prefer to
soak the Birch in warm water for a few hours before the punishment, however this
is certainly optional.  It can be a chore of the child, thus adding to the
anticipation.  Remember to be sure the switch or birching-twigs are fresh so
they don't break-off or cut the skin due to brittleness. I reserve use of the
Birch for servere punishments only, and my seventeen year old son has only been
Birched three times in his life....  the most recent event was some eight months
ago.  A Birching is reserved for Saturday mornings with preparation made on
Friday night.   No breakfast on Saturday is allowed other than one slice of
toast and a cup of tea about two hours before the punishment. Since Todd is
usually up by 7 am on Saturdays, I give him the thrashing around 11 am.  He also
is excused from Phys Ed classes for the following week, with a written excuse by
me, stating that he is under Doctors care for an intestinal disorder.   After
the Birching, the child will probably not want to leave the house the rest of
the day, although I allow them out in the evening.  ALWAYS be sure a cool bath
is given about a half-hour after the Birching!

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Prepairing the child for the punishment:


The child must be properly prepared for the spanking. Spankings are most
frequently administered in private to avoid humiliating the child.  Especially
as he moves into the teenage years and sexual developement becomes obvious, most
parents find it more appropriate to spank privately.  You may prefer the example
set by spanking the child in front of other members of the family, especially in
front of other same-sex siblings.  It is not considered appropriate to spank a
teenager in front of an opposite sex sibling, although some families do spank
with both Father and Mother present.   This is a decision you must make based
upon your own beliefs and standards.

Spankings should never be administered when you are angry. You should discuss
the behavior which has led you to feel a spanking is necessary and send the
child to the room where the spanking is to occur and have them prepare for it.  
This allows you time to calm down and get some perspective on what you are doing
before you do more damage than good.  The punishment is to benefit the child,
not to vent anger for the parent.

Generally, spankings should be on the bare bottom and upper thighs of the
teenager.  In some families if the father is spanking a daughter, she is allowed
to remain in her underwear or pajamas.  If the Mother is going to spank her
teenage son, it might be best to allow him to wear an athletic supporter to
retain some modesty and avoid sexual conflicts.  This again, is up to the
parents and due care should be given in making these decisions.

In most cases, the following should occur when the child is sent to the place of
punishment:

a.  Boys should either lower or remove their trousers.  By lowering I mean they
should be pulled down at least to the knees or dropped to the floor.  Depending
on the implement and positioning to be used, removal of the trousers is often
the best method.   Shirt tails should be pulled up so that they are out of the
way.  If the boy is wearing a dress-shirt with long tails, he should remove it. 
His undershirt may remain on, as long as it is raised-up enough so the buttocks
are free of any clothing.  Most often I suggest that he simply roll up the shirt
to under his armpits.   The next step is the most common method, but again this
is a judgement-call which the parents must make based upon whether the Mother is
going to be present or not.  The underpants should be taken-down to the knees if
the boy is to be punished while bending over.  If he is to lay-across the bed,
it's best to have him remove the underpants entirely so he can step over and get
onto the bed without having to waddle.   Leaving the underpants on and lowered
serves no purpose other than some parents allow the boy the dignity of first
bending over and then pulling his underpants down, thus reducing the amount of
time his genitals are fully exposed to those viewing the spanking.


b.  Girls should lower pants or shorts to their ankles as well as their
underpants although you may elect to skip having the panties taken down if Dad
will be watching.  Dresses and skirts should be raised to above the waist (and
tucked into the waistband if possible) along with slips and petticoats.  Blouse
tails should be raised above the waist (tucking them under the bra strap works
well) and panties and pantyhose (if worn) should be lowered to the ankles.


Positioning:

Positioning for the spanking may depend on the implement selected and in some
cases the child.  Hand, hairbrush and wooden spoon spankings are best
administered with the spanker seated in a straight backed chair with the child 
positioned over the knees of the spanker.  With paddles, over the knee works
best for the bolo type paddles.  If you are using a longer paddle with handle,
the child should be made to bend over and grasp their ankles, however if the
child is thin or lacks a fair amount of muscle in the buttocks, it would be best
to have them grab their knees.  Purpose here is to ensure the paddle does it's
job without actually hitting any bone.   This same position is also suitable for
the belt or switch although a little more awkward for the person giving the
spanking.  Also, for boys who are sexually developed there is one rule of thumb
to observe....  If the boy bends over and grabs his ankles, take a good look at
his profile and be -sure- his testicles are not protruding behind him.  Some
boys will have a fair amount of their scrotum sticking-out behind them when bent
over and grabbing the ankles.  Obviously this is not what you want.  This is a
punishment, not torture.  For most strappings or switchings, it is best if the
boy lays across the bed with his legs together.  A method which provides the
most mileage per stroke would be to get those licks into the crack of his bottom
and between the thighs, where the skin is more tender.   This means extreme
caution to avoid hitting him in the genitals.  The method we suggest is to have
him lay over a pillow, and be told (preferably in advance) that he should reach
underneath and lift his scrotum upwards so it is not between his legs.  If you
take his underpants and stuff them into his crotch, they will serve a padding to
avoid genital injury, and you can then order his legs parted.... about two feet
between his feet... and the strap can do it's job extremely well.  

The child should be reminded of what they are being corrected for and told that
if they get out of position during the spanking that the amount they are to
receive will increase.  Many children will cry, scream and holler, as well as
make promises to be good.  They should understand that this will have no effect
on the amount of punishment dispensed.  The spanking should be methodically 
applied to the bare bottom and thighs of the child.  Some people start just
above the knees and work up, while others start with the buttocks and work down,
and some people prefer a random application, so the child does not know where
the next lick will hit.  When using a strap or switch, you should whip in a
somewhat diagonal fashion... not straight across the bottom.   Stand to one side
of the bed near the childs upper chest, and whip slightly downwards.  Move
around to the other side and do the same, then alongside the leg and whip
upwards from either side.  Keep moving around so the entire are is covered after
a short time.   Remember, repeatedly whipping the same spot will lesson the
effectiveness as the skin becomes less sensitive with each lick... so try and
cover as much territory as possible. 

The spanking should be of sufficient duration for the child to think twice
before committing the same transgression.  The average spanking is given by the
number of licks or swats.  Although most of us got it this way ourselves and it
seems like a reasonable way of doing things, in reality it is best to not place
a "goal" number since the child will try and hold-out knowing that it will be
over in "X" more licks.  If you do use the pre-determined lick method, here are
some simple rules to go by, assuming you are using moderate force and the
implement is matched to the position properly:              
        -    Paddle:  Minimum of 10, maximum of 40 swats.  If you give one      
             swat every five seconds, this will take from one to four minutes. 
             This also applies for the brush or spoon.
        -    Strap or Belt:  Minimum of a dozen, maximum of 30.  Assuming you   
             are moving around properly, you can deliver about one lick every  
             ten seconds or so.... thus this whipping will take between two     
             and five minutes.
        -    Switch or Canewood:  Minimum of five, maximum of 20.  This is a    
             painful punishment, and should be dolled-out about one stroke     
             every 15 to 30 seconds... so this will take anywhere from a little 
             over a minute to as long a ten minutes.
        -    Birch: Minimum of five, maximum of fifteen.  Remember, this HURTS!


A more fitting way to punish, especially if the child has committed what you
feel is a serious offense, would be to make no mention of the number of licks or
swats to come.  If he asks "How many will I get?" simply tell him "As many as I
think it takes to make you remember this for a long time."    Let the child sit
and wonder for a while before you come into the room and give the punishment.
In a case like this, a time-frame should be put upon the thrashing....  Tell the
child they are going to get 10 minutes or even 15 minutes of punishment... then
go at it methodically but slowly.

Some parents have asked if restraints are okay to use.  There is no right answer
for this....   For girls I'd say no.  Boys, especially boys well into their
teens, simple restraints for the wrists are not uncommon.   You could even let
this be up to the boy....  with the understanding that if he reaches behind or
moves way out of position during the punishment, he will be punished even more.
Then tell him that if he wants, you will tie his hands so he --can't-- reach
behind or move too far, and let him make the choice. In the case of a really
severe offenses, where you are going to give him that "Worst beating of your
life"....  there is nothing wrong with securing him at the wrists and ankles,
and perhaps even at the waist so he cannot thrash around and is obligated to
take the pending whipping in total resignation.


After the spanking you may have the child stand in the corner but not be allowed
to  rub the affected area or you may send them to bed.  I prefer administering
Corporal Punishment at bedtime since this gives the child time to think about
what he/she has done to earn the spanking, and time to dwell on the burning
discomfort of the punishment just given.  Bedtime is also good because you can
have the child wearing only pajamas which are easily lowered or removed with one
yank on the snaps.   They are loose-fitting and if it is decided that the child
should not bare the bottom because an opposite-sex family member will be
watching, it's of little consequence since the PJ's offer very little extra
protection.   I would have the boy lay across the bed and then pull the PJ's
down, thus giving him the benefit of no genital exposure in front of others in
the room but still causing him the emabarrassment of being bare-butt for the
punishment. Also, it is preferable to have the child take a warm (not hot) bath
about a half-hour prior to the spanking.   Tell him to use the toilet if
necessary, and wash his/her private areas thoroughly.  Although it's not likely,
it is possible to break the skin while spanking, especially if with a thin strap
or switch, and the cleaner the area is, the less likely an infection may take
place.  It's also good hygene for the child to get used to.

If a girl is menstrating, she should be told to douche before the spanking, and
then again afterwards.   In some households, the Mother will take the daughter
to the bathroom for the douching, while Dad gets the implement ready.  The girl
is then brought to the bedroom and only after she has been stripped of her
panties and put into position, should the Father come into the room to give the
punishment.   He should not linger afterwards... but leave immediately and
aallow the Mother to make any visual inspections of the girl, then take her to
the bathroom for another douching, if necessary.

It is possible that a boy gets an erection prior to the punishment.  Although
this is not the "usual" event, it is not uncommon by any means.  Nothing should
be said about it.  He will be humiliated enough knowing that you have seen him
erect.  Words are not necessary.  If this does occur, particular attention
should be given him afterwards.  Have him again stand-up, or of on the bed, have
him roll-over and take a look to see if the erection has gone down and also to
be sure he did not ejaculate. If he did, you may have a problem on your hands. 
The simplest way to deal with this would be to talk with him privately prior to
another whipping.  Explain that punishment is not supposed to feel good, and
that his erection (although uncontrollable) is not acceptable.  Explain that in
the future, he is to "prepare" for a whipping by going through whatever motions
he has gone through in the past, but he must also make a trip to the bathroom
and masturbate.  Some parents, to be sure the boy his spent himself, will give
him a small jar or paper cup and tell him to ejaculate into it, then leave it
bedside for Dad to look at when it's punishment time.  The boy should be allowed
at LEAST ten minutes after the masturbation before the punishment so he can go
through the normal refractory period and get his wits about him.  Do not wait
any longer than a half hour, or you may find he has another erection.   If this
does happen, a second ejaculation is out of the question.... just go ahead and
whip him.  DO NOT punish him for having an erection.  It's not "dirty" or "bad".

Most parents do not encourage masturbation, although there is no reason for this
line of thinking.  Once upon a time, and for many years, it was considered "bad"
to masturbate and all sorts of foolish reasons were given.  None of them have
any medical or psychological truth. Generally, religious reasons are the cause
for the "hands-off" instructions given the boy about his penis.   if you elect
to use this method or not is totally up to you and consideration should be given
it before being presented to the boy.  Once you commit to the plan, stick by it. 
From then on, ALL spankings will be preceeded by ejaculation... no exceptions.  
Consistancy is a keyword in raising a child and if you don't show consistancy,
how can you expect the child to do so?

After the punishment has been administered, the child should be informed that
they can expect to receive more of the same if future misbehavior occurs. It is
up to YOU to follow-through on this promise.  (Don't make it a threat... make it
a positive statement... a promise.  Then keep your promise.)


If you follow the procedures outlined here your children will be more obedient
and better behaved.  Nothing is foolproof.  Spanking is only the reinforcement
of family values and acceptable behaviour.  Without love and understanding,
spanking is nothing more than abuse.   Done in a household where love and
understanding abounds, the spanking serves to demonstrate that the child is
loved.  Remember:  If you are angry, DON'T spank.


We hope this article has served as a useful guide in dealing with your children. 
If you have specific questions, you may refer them to me directly.  I will be
happy to answer your questions or comments and provide specific advice if you
have situations which are unusual.  
If you have certain methods you find useful in administering Corporal
Punishment, please feel free to explain them in detail for everyone to share.

If you have specific questions as about an implement, position or preparation,
please drop a line to me on this BBS.

Good luck with your children.  They need all the input and guidance you can
provide.