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10 Essential Flirting Moves You Must Know

10 Essential Flirting Moves You Must Know
reproduced with permission from: How to Succeed with Women [commercial]

There are 10 essential flirting moves that you must know. These are
critical if you are to get out of the "Friend" zone and into the
"Potential Lover" category with any woman:

1. Smiling. You must smile. You probably think you smile now, but you
don't, really. You should practice your smile in the mirror--to be big
enough to be noticed, your smile will probably have to be bigger than
you are used to.

2. Getting caught looking. Most people look away when the object of
their desire looks at them. If you want to let that person know you are
interested, when she catches you looking, smile, hold eye contact a
moment longer, then look away.

3. Waving. A little wave to someone who caught you looking, along with a
smile, is a non-intrusive, very flirty way to say "hello."

4. Winking. You can wink at someone from across the room, or wink at
someone during a conversation. If she says something funny, or someone
else does something silly, you can give a wink as a way of sharing a
little moment for just the two of you, as if the two of you are in on
some private joke no one else is aware of.

5. Asking "what's the story behind that?" You can ask "what's the story
behind that?" about any special or unusual thing your quarry is wearing
or carrying. Examples: "that's really neat bracelet you are wearing.
What's the story behind that?" or "That's a really great briefcase.
What's the story behind that?" Even if there isn't much of one, it's
given you some conversation.

6. Holding eye contact. While you are conversing with her, you want to
be sure to have eye contact at least some of the time. At least once
it's a good idea to hold the eye contact a little "too long," just a
fraction too long, so there's a brief, more intimate moment between you.

7. Non-intrusive touching. This can be as simple as placing your hand
lightly on her hand for a moment, or touching her back for a moment as
you walk to a table to sit down. Just do this a couple of times on the
first flirting interaction--if she pulls away, don't do it again.

8. Checking her out. Checking out her body must be done properly. The
goal is for your new friend to feel complimented that you noticed her
body, not objectified like some piece of meat. You do this by making eye
contact, then quickly, in less than a second, passing your eyes down and
then up over her body, then back to looking in the eyes. It should
happen quickly, and you should be unashamed of taking a glance. Just
don't do it too often.

9. Using the "Good-bye compliment." If you are shy, flirting with the
"good-bye compliment" may be just the thing you need. On your way out,
you simply go up to the woman you want to flirt with, and say something
like, "Hi, I have to go now, but before I did, I really wanted to let
you know that you have a really great sense of style, and that I noticed
it. I wish I had more time to spend with you, but I have to go." Then
leave. This allows you to build your confidence in approaching women,
without having to take the risk of rejection--after all, you have to
leave, you couldn't stay even if they wanted you to! (Some men also ask
for phone numbers at this point.)

10. Stopping while it's still fun. Remember, flirting should be fun, and
you should leave the flirting interaction feeling victorious. Most men
leave their flirting interactions feeling like failures because they
don't stop until it stops being fun. If you stop flirting on a high
point, while it's still fun, your new friend will feel good when
thinking of you, and want to see you again.


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