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How to spot a liar

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			|| How to spot a liar		 ||
			|| By Node of The Centre	 ||
			|| 5/26/2002		         ||
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== Disclaimer ==
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All information provided is intended for educational purposes only.

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== Introduction ==
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Ever wonder if a person is telling you a lie? There are clues which can
tell you that a person is being less than truthful to you and that are
methods you can use to get at the truth or manipulate the situation. The
biggest reason liars give themselves away is due to inconsitences in
their stories.

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== How to spot a liar ==
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1. No eye contact. His or her eyes will look away. If the room has a
   means of egress, that is where they will most likely look.
2. Crossing of arms and/or legs (a protective instinct).
3. The pupils of the eyes will narrow. Lying is stressful.
4. Hands on the face, especially the mouth. They are "covering" the lie.
5. Talking fast. A liar wants to get it over with.
6. Sometimes the head will nod a "no" when answering a "yes" question or
   visa versa. This is a subconcious movement.
7. Mispronouncing the words or mumbling. A liar kinda thinks he is not
   lying when he pronounces words incorrectly or mumbles.
8. Overstated friendliness or laughing. He or she wants you to believe
   and he or she wants you to like him or her so that you will believe
   the lie.
9. A smile is the most common mask that a person uses to hide their feelings.
10. Some liars lie for the thrill of it. Watch for the twinkle in the
    eye or the twitch around the lips.

How Not To Be Lied To:

1. Sit in the higher chair. A subtle sort of intimidation.
2. Uncross your legs and open your arms and lean back. Make yourself
   "open" to the truth.
3. Ask for minute details (a challenge to the liar).
4. Don't ever tell them what you do know, don't point out you know what
   they are saying is a lie. This is your own ego trip.
5. Invade their personal space. Get close, they'll get uncomfortable (good).
6. Mimic their posture and movements..be subtle. This establishes a
   rapport and they'll never figure out why.
7. Speak in their style. Listen to how they think. If the person says
   things like "I HEAR ya!" or "that SOUNDS good", you'll know he thinks
   auditorially or with his ears. If he says "I shoulda SEEN it comin"
   or "I SEE what you mean", you'll know he is visually oriented. If he
   says things like "it HIT me like a tons of bricks" or "I just FROZE
   in my tracks", you'll know he thinks by feelings. Speak to him the
   same way. A good test is to ask someone to recite the alphabet. Some
   people will stare as if they are looking at the alphabet above the
   blackboard in grade school (visual), some people will sing the
   alphabet (auditory) and some people will taps out the letters
   (feeling). If you match their thinking method, you'll have nstant
   rapport.
8. Give 'em an "out". You gotta make it easy for them to to tell the
   truth. Pretend you didn't hear them correctly or tell them you didn't
   understand what they said. Always leave a way out so they recant
   their words and tell the truth.
9. Stay calm. Never show surprise or shock. Treat everything they say
   with the same importance. The first time you react negatively you
   will lose any chance of being told the truth.


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